A Gender A Day Keeps the Cis Away

If you follow me on Twitter, you may have noticed that the pronouns in my bio have changed, from she/her, to she/they. I’ve always identified as how I was assigned at birth, a cis woman, as I don’t really have a discomfort with womanhood. But over the course of this year, I’ve come to realize that I’m more than just a woman. I’m a woman+, if you will. There are many reasons, and my relation with my own body as well as my romantic relationship with women play into it. But I’ve come to realize that I don’t fully identify as just a woman, and I have instead switched to identifying as a nonbinary woman or genderqueer (both fit me, and I like both labels). I am still comfortable with she pronouns for myself, but I also like “they” for myself too. Part of that is my name. I like the absolute gender neutrality of my name, and I like the idea that the neutrality can be maintained with my pronouns as well. My gender is between me and my partners, and nobody else should need to know the exact details.

It’s me! A slightly older photo from earlier this year when my hair was pink. I have since moved on to purple. who knows what’ll be next!

My transition is just beginning, but it will be subtle. I already dress how I feel most comfortable, in a mixture of feminine and masculine clothes, with long hair in bright colors and plenty of jewelry. But there are some body modifications I’ll be pursuing to more fully align my body with my gender. I’m hoping, that having insurance and an understanding GP doctor will smooth the way for me in this journey, but I am still exploring my options and don’t have any idea how long it will take or what I will encounter along the way. But today I got my first referral for top-surgery from my GP. So wish me luck!

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